Knowing when she’s not attracted to you could be the difference between you making a fool of yourself and finding someone who really is. Here are some top tips.
Attraction is like a cosmic force, and when it hits, it hits hard. But what’s happening on a molecular level? Well, scientists say it involves neurotransmitters, hormones, and a dash of fairy dust. When you’re attracted to someone, your brain releases dopamine, the pleasure hormone, creating a euphoric feeling that’s basically the equivalent of winning the lottery while riding a roller coaster.
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However, it’s as important (or perhaps even more so) to know when she’s not into you as when she is, so as to allow you to retain your dignity. Much of someone’s disinterest in someone else can be read in a woman’s body language and if you’re seeking our female attention, it’s important to know which trees not to bark up.
Here are some invaluable signs.
The Invisible Force Field: If she’s mastered the art of dodging your attempts at physical contact like Neo in The Matrix, it might be time to reassess.
The Polite Giggle: While laughter is usually a good sign, the “polite giggle” is a distant relative that signals more obligation than amusement. If it sounds like she’s practising for a sitcom audience, tread carefully.
Texting Delays and Emoji Economy: If her responses resemble a lunar landing countdown with sporadic emojis, Houston, we might have a problem. Quick and animated replies are the name of the game.
The Mysterious Disappearing Act: When she’s suddenly harder to track down than Waldo at a camouflage convention, it’s a clear sign she might not be on board the love train.
The “Friendship Talk”: If she starts dropping phrases like “You’re like a brother to me” or “I wish more guys were like you,” consider it the universe’s way of handing you a GPS to the friend zone.
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The Glazed Look During Storytime: If her eyes resemble those of a student in a calculus class during your tales of adventure and wit, it might be time to simplify the plot.
The Pseudo Bodyguard: If she starts treating you like her personal bodyguard in social situations, it’s not that she thinks you’re James Bond; she just wants to keep you at arm’s length.
The “I’m Busy” Opera: If every day in her life suddenly feels like a subplot in a Shakespearean tragedy where she’s playing the part of the perpetually busy heroine, it might be time to exit stage left.
The Artful Dodge: When her body executes a series of manoeuvres reminiscent of a seasoned dodgeball player, she might be avoiding more than just flying balls—your advances, for instance.
The Time-Traveling Watch: If her wristwatch becomes a time machine, catapulting her into the future with lightning speed whenever you approach, it’s safe to say she’s not eager to spend time in your company.
Phone-a-Friend Stance: When her phone morphs into a protective shield, blocking all potential interaction, it’s as if she’s participating in a real-life game of “Who Wants to Avoid an Awkward Conversation?”
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Evasive Maneuvers: If she starts manoeuvring around the room like a spy in an action movie, utilising pillars, furniture, and unsuspecting bystanders as cover, consider yourself caught in the crossfire of disinterest.
The Peripheral Vision Power: When her gaze suddenly acquires superhero-level peripheral vision, scanning the surroundings as if an escape route needs immediate discovery, she’s not exactly zeroing in on you with romantic intent.
The Quantum Leap Backward: If, upon your approach, she seems to defy the laws of physics by taking a subtle but definite step backwards, it’s not a dance move—it’s an instinctive retreat from unwanted advances.
Dance of the Detached Limbs: If her limbs seem detached from the rest of her body, maintaining a polite but rigid distance, it’s like she’s doing an interpretive dance called “Boundaries.”
The Expert Nod-and-Smile: When her smile resembles that of a seasoned diplomat, nodding gracefully while mentally planning her escape route, it’s safe to assume your charms haven’t triggered a peace treaty.
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