You think she is, but you’re not sure and you don’t want to make a dick of yourself. We’ve all been there, but there are ways to know if she’s into you or just trying to get the bartender’s attention.
In the digital, app-driven age, when Tinder fingertip RSI is a real thing, we have a seemingly never-ending list of options when it comes to people to date. Despite this, you can still miss out on the relationship of a lifetime by making a move too late (or not at all). Whether it’s for life or just for Christmas, the first step to any relationship is knowing if you’re both into each other. Here are eight ways to tell if the girl of your dreams thinks you’re the man of hers.
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Her Body Will do the Talking
In the presence of the right man, a woman will make her presence as inviting as possible. Leaning in, facing you directly, playing with her hair, and holding extended eye contact are some examples of ways to tell she’s attracted to you through body language. Look out for regular smiles, cursory glances up and down your body, lip licking, and for her to look away when you maintain direct eye contact. Also, when a woman is actively trying to close the gap between you both, you know that she definitely wants more than your opinions on craft beer.
There’s Chemistry
Tension doesn’t have to be a bad thing – if anything it means you’re both acutely aware of your surroundings, the scenario you’ve created, the potential for everything from tantric delights to a lifetime together. Sexual tension is what happens when you’re comfortable enough with each other to display the body language that creates it, so it’s something to embrace.
She Goes All Low and Husky
Voice plays a surprisingly significant role in our attraction to other people. From signaling fertility to showing arousal, studies have shown that both genders lower their voice in the presence of someone they’re attracted to. Women are known to switch to lower pitches when they are in professional situations where they need to exude authority. In some cases, they may want to exude authority over you.
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She’s Making an Effort
While women make an effort to look good for multiple reasons, going the extra mile before meeting you is always a good sign. When meeting a potential partner, women make it a point to look as desirable as possible. From touching up their lipstick before a date to slapping on some eyelashes before a one-on-one video call, a woman will find a subtle (or not so subtle) way to make herself look as attractive as possible in front of an alluring would-be suitor.
She Makes Time to Be With You
Whether it’s having your own private chat or drinking coffee with you in the middle of a workday, a woman that likes you will spend time with you. She might enlist the help of her friends, ask for your help with a task, or even casually drop by the machine you’re working out at in the gym. Guys can often be blind to this but it’s often a conscious effort on the part of the woman so you’d be wise to pay attention. Women know that who we are when we’re in groups is not always who we are in intimate scenarios. A woman interested in you will try to see if you’re compatible in both.
She’s Actually Listening to Your Drivel
With the rise of social media and the internet, women have several ways to get to know more people in a short amount of time, so assume she has multiple lads pulling all the same tricks and lines as you. So how to know you’re making an impact? She remembers the small details of your conversations (and doesn’t call you someone else’s name). Try to leave a few low-hanging fruit in your casual conversations – the name of your childhood pet, your favorite colour, or even your favorite type of wine. If she remembers, you’ll know that she’s been paying attention.
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She Cares About Your Opinion
Remember that as a man, many things that modern women do are not to impress you. Most women will act and dress to give themselves confidence first and impress other women second. Why else would there be hundreds of lipstick shades that men will never be able to tell apart? When choosing a partner, many women will take the man’s opinions into serious consideration. Often, she’ll consider your opinion on things that matter to her – her lifestyle, career choices, and goals – you know, the little stuff! So if she’s asking you what you think, be sure to give it your best.
If in Doubt, Ask
While you can make all the guesses you want, the most straightforward way to know if a woman is into you is to ask. A woman can be as nice or as provocative as she wants to be, but that still does not automatically mean that she’s into you.
If the signs aren’t clear, the best way to know if she’s into you is to just ask. Be clear with what you want, who you want, and what you’re willing to do to have that kind of relationship.
When checking if a woman is into you, it’s also worth checking how she’s into you. Whether it’s as a potential long term relationship or just a short term fling, both are perfectly fine so long as you’re both on the same page.
After all, there’s nothing sexier than a couple who knows what they want, especially when it’s each other.
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